How NOT to Be a Better Friend

be a better friend

So you want to be a better friend?

You want to cultivate deeper relationships?

You want to be the person people turn to when they need advice? Or the person people are happy to help whenever you need it?

There’s one simple way to make sure that never happens.

And that’s making everything about YOU.

All relationships are a give and take. You give a little bit of yourself and you get a little piece of the other person in return.

The problem is…

Sometimes, that balance is all out of whack.

One person usually overextends themself and offers nothing in return. They always talk about themselves. They always ask for favors. They always dump their emotional load without ever considering the other person.

Now, I’m not saying it’s wrong to do those things. But I am saying that you need to be mindful of how much you’re doing it.

Friends want to help each other. It’s one of the most fulfilling parts of any great friendship.

But when you don’t ask about the other person… when you don’t take time to learn what they’re all about… when you ask for favor upon favor without ever offering anything in return… when you vent and complain and moan and cry every time you talk to them…

… you’re not being a friend.

You’re being user and you’re abusing something sacred.

Don’t do that.

Instead, step back and ask yourself:

“How am I adding value to this relationship? How am I being helpful? How am I making this person’s life better?”

If you’re having trouble answering those questions, then you probably don’t have the friendship you think you do.

But it’s not too late to save it.

Start making your friendship more about them and I promise you’ll start getting more out of it.


And when you’re ready 👇👇

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